Retreating on a Budget

Now more than ever before we are in need of rest and reflection. In challenging times whether we are directly or indirectly affected by job loss, lack of funding, debt or stress, we are all inter-conected. What is one person's strife becomes another person's compassionate concern. When the ripple in the pond widens the effect is more pronounced.

How can each person build up that muscle that is called resilience. How can we as coaches offer the support to clients and not become depleted ourselves? How can we as neighbours support our friends and colleagues. How can President Obama stay strong and motivated to ride out the storm?

Where does that "bounce-back -ability" come from? I believe that it is part of our being human. Some more than others have had to develop resilience through challenges in their lives.
Take some time to think about what resilience means to you?

I invite you to create a very special place where you love to go to. In your house, garden or conservatory create a special sanctuary where you can just be. Let this place soothe you and contain everything that a retreat space or spa may hold. Choose music, colours, textiles,scents and books which hold you calm and safe. It is essential to be able to create this place just for you to retreat to on a daily basis. It costs little but offers a great deal.Set some personal ground rules.
1. Spend 30 minutes daily undisturbed.
2. Read something inspirational.
3. Reflect on how you have survived challenges before and write a list of what you did at that time.

Create a space and time for self care. Choose to breathe, relax, meditate and watch your thoughts. Let's see what happens this week with this little daily retreat?

"Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit" by Berne Williams

Autumn Pamper and Rest

15th – 17th November 2010

Take a positive step, give yourself the permission to get away from it all and come join us for a wonderfully relaxing Midweek Pamper Retreat, held at our stunning 5 star Guest House in Norfolk.

**TWO NIGHTS FULL BOARD WITH THREE COACHING SESSIONS AND A CHOICE FROM A NUMBER OF ACCOMPANIED ACTIVITIES**

Lying near the village of Helhoughton, in Norfolk, about 25 minutes drive east of King’s Lynn. This wonderful retreat venue has been refurbished to offer
the comforts expected by our clients; ensuite facilities, wonderful views over the lake inhabited by wild life, plus freshly prepared home cooked meals especially for our clients.

Sadly, all too often we get tied up with everyday life and sometimes we experience the sense of needing time to ourselves. A Midweek Pamper Retreat is just the thing to restore rest and renewal.

Whilst with us, you will enjoy one-to-one private coaching sessions to help you find clarity of mind, and plan your fresh direction. To compliment this, you will have the opportunity to choose from a number of different relaxation activities like yoga, reiki and meditation, as well as gorgeous & indulgent beauty treatments like Indian Head Massage, Deep Cleansing facials and reflexology….alterntively, if you prefer you can choose to just…be!

Places are filling up fast so please do contact us if you would like to book.

Executive Retreat Coach, Dorothy Larios, Professional Beauty & Holistic Therapist, Janet Ficarra’s and your host, Peter Weston will ensure you a very warm welcome, upon arrival for your Retreat.

We look forward to hearing from you!

Spring Colour!

Why do we associate the colour yellow with Spring?
The colour yellow exudes brightness, light, vitality, energy, optimism, willingness to grow and outshine. Sun, stars, sunflowers and daffodils are the objects that mostly are associated with the colour yellow.

Yellow is considered to be a cheerful colour due to its close colour relationship with the sun. Yet, yellow is a colour that has mixed meanings. Despite the perception of yellow as a happy color, it is the least favorite colour chosen by people to wear. On the positive side, it is the yellow flowers that bloom first in the spring: crocus, daffodils and forsythia.Yellow combines well with nearly every other color.Bright yellow is by far the easiest color to see - just like the sunflower fields of Kansas, yellow symbolizes spring and summer, warmth and vitality.
So is it always so wonderful in nature?
On the down side, yellow can also mean sickness, particularly jaundice. It is the color of the flag used to indicate that a ship at sea is in quarantine due to an epidemic of illness. In nature, yellow is a warning, usually of poison.

So whatever it means to you, welcome yellow into your garden and allow it to cheer the recovering dullness of winter.

Rising Anxiety

Each day that I work and spend time with my clients, I am witness to more and more anxiety attached to the workplace. Through no direct fault of the employees more and more managers are passing down their anxieties. Those at the top of the pile seem to have lost all compassion for those who work at the coal face. Unprecedented reports of bullying by head teachers, senior leaders, middle management as everyone is swamped by and overwhelming demand for proof of every action.
We have joined the US culture of blame and counterblame of bringing law suits and claiming damages. Health and Safety have taken us into the realms of the ridiculous and staff and managers are forced to live in a culture of fear.
Today as the spring sunshine warmed our spirits slightly, I was blessed with being able to take time for a walk. I pondered how best to face the reality of each client and model some of the self soothing techniques that have worked for me.

Let me take them back to nature. Let them find ways to sooth their worried brains and compromised immune systems.

Where has compassion gone? Where has good old fashioned common sense been hidden? Why are we lacking in courage to stand up to the idiotic leaders that call the shots and earn huge salaries and steal through bonuses.

The little respite that I can offer is come walk with me in nature, rest on a retreat and let me help you see that life has more blessings than bullies. Let us rise above the arrogance,injustices and corruption by finding who we are and how we can be in this world.We need to live by our values and find our own way to be courageous.

Dorothy Larios

Breathe in a gift from the sea

I have spent many enjoyable hours teaching walking meditation this summer that I am sure many footprints have been left in the sand around the coast of Britain. It sounds rather difficult to meditate and walk but anyone who has followed Thich Nhat Hanh and his teachings will be aware that there is nothing as simple as simply walking and breathing.The purpose is to be in the present moment and be aware of our breathing and our walking. Being aware of the way our feet make contact with the Earth and imagining we are imprinting a message helps us to slow down and stops our busy mind. What would your message be to our planet? Can you hold the image of a flower blooming under each step as you walk on grass or perhaps you press a shell or pebble into the sand to return it to the sea on the next tide.

On 24th October join me on a wonderful Day Retreat in East Sussex where we will focus on the inspiring book by Anne Morrow Lindbergh "A Gift from the Sea." This is a writer's retreat which I will co-host with Gilly Smith, a journalist and well established hostess. Gilly will open her house for us to spend creative time, reflect on this book and perhaps join us in a walking meditation.We will walk along the coastline on the south coast near the Seven Sisters and our day will end with dinner and discussion.You will return home with a deeper sense of connectedness to the seashore and Mother Nature's treasures.Indeed a wonderful gift from the sea!

Life

A year ago today I was sitting with my father as he slipped from Life into Death and I sent out a blog from an Internet cafe in North Berwick, a Scottish seaside town.
Today my reflections have been gentle as I took my Aspergers, adult son for a drive into the Ashdown Forest,East Suusex. What do you do when in fact there is nothing to do but remember.I would have loved to have walked for miles in the August sunshine or sit in a quiet haven and reflect but my son becomes unsettled and anyway he doesn't do emotions, really.

I took him to visit a friend of mine who lives in a beautiful area in the centre of the area know as the forest.
She is a natural healer living in a wonderful old property with her adult son. They have begun to refurbish an old house and barn into a living and working space. A beautiful English garden, green meadow land and two cats and a horse. How wonderful and so welcoming. On leaving she offered me fresh runner beans and apples from her garden and strong memories came to me of my childhood and how I took for granted the country environment that I was brought up in.
She on the other hand was London born and this is her haven now.

How nostalgic I am for that past life. The summers of strawberries, raspberries, acres of tomatoes flourishing in glasshouses. Private land to walk on feeling safe and secure in the fact it was Dad's land. Carol's parting words to me were " ----it is hard work!"
Yes indeed it was a life's work for my father. Thank you for those memories of the daffodils in spring, leeks in winter, picking peas and eating more than we picked.
For the hard work, the early morning trips to market and for the fact you gave us an ideallic childhood.So perhaps there is a little annual ritual that can develop each year. Being close to nature and man's cultivation of what sustains us. Fond memories!

Holiday Chill Out Techniques

I remember once hearing that most people need to take a holiday for at least 10 days to really unwind, turn off the busy brain and really enjoy a complete break. Well, this of course depends on many factors. Are you a completely obsessive compulsive e-mail junky? Do you go on holiday to rush around sightseeing. Do you view you holiday as a duty to the family or are you really seeking a space to not think about anything in particular?

As I have spent the last few years taking retreat time for myself as well as organising and running regular retreats. I have found that I now seem to have a more natural capacity to turn off my brain much quicker when on a trip or holiday. Yes I have had more practice than most people and yes I have been using yoga and meditation in my life for many years, which obviously have had some very positive effects. However the capacity to distance yourself from the everyday concerns, is not always so easy to do. So what assists you to control the brain, thinking and worrying and let things go? What helps you to self-sooth? Is it music, a beautifully quiet environment or wonderful scenery? Can you turn the mobile phone off and remain out of touch? Let me know what most counts for you as a way to really chill out on holiday.